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Brad Harrington

Executive Director

Published June 8, 2022

This Father鈥檚 Day marks the 12th year that the听涩里番下载 Center for Work & Family听has been working to better understand听the experiences of today鈥檚 working fathers. Over this time, we have published numerous reports, book chapters and journal articles aimed at helping the public and employers better understand the experience of today鈥檚 dads, especially with regard to work and family. Our research has focused mainly on the experiences of 鈥渨hite collar鈥� fathers and we have studied a broad range of issues including the transition to fatherhood, at-home dads, millennial fathers, generational differences in fathering, and men鈥檚 attitudes about and utilization of parental leave.听

Through the years, we have seen time and again that fathers today aspire (and often need) to be much more hands-on with their children than fathers a generation ago. They no longer see their role solely, or even primarily, as a breadwinner. In all of our studies, but especially those in 2011, 2015, 2016, and 2019, more than two-thirds of fathers said they want to share parenting equally with their spouse / partner. However, half of those fathers (that鈥檚 more than one-third overall) are not living up to that goal.听We鈥檝e identified these men as Conflicted Fathers听鈥� they aspire to share caregiving equally but are unable or unwilling to do so. And as we know, the past two years of COVID have done nothing to reverse this pattern. The听.

The problem with being a听Conflicted Father听is that you are not living up to your own standards and likely letting down your partner as well. The roughly one-third of dads who fell into this conflicted group in our studies also had the lowest level of satisfaction and fulfillment at work听and听at home when compared to听Traditional Fathers听and听Egalitarian Fathers.

The conversations, interviews and studies we have engaged in since 2010 have offered many likely explanations for this imbalance. In spite of the听, fathers鈥� financial contributions to the family are typically greater than their partner鈥檚. Organizations have been slow to catch up to and accept men鈥檚 important and expanded role in the home.听Until recently, for example, men were not offered paternity leave in most organizations. The resulting lack of time 鈥渇lying solo鈥� caring for infants leads to lower levels of confidence and competence in caregiving for men while mothers often spent several months at home becoming the primary caregiver.

In recent months, we have analyzed a data set of more than 1400 men and women working in large corporations in the United States (collected by our Center prior to the pandemic). We were curious about what factors facilitated shared caregiving in dual-career couples, and which ones hindered it. Here鈥檚 what we discovered:

• Women whose spouses took parental leave听are听more likely听to achieve equality in caregiving.听This reinforces, once again, that fathers who have extended periods of time at home with their children in their early days will continue to be more engaged caregivers in the long term.听
• Women who utilize flexplace听work arrangements are less likely听to achieve equality in caregiving than those who do not.听While flexible working was, in many cases, designed to support working mothers, utilization of flexibility programs, especially working from home, can backfire and exacerbate inequality on the homefront.
• Men who achieve egalitarian caregiving听arrangements tend to be those that听contribute less than half of the family income and / or have a spouse that works at least 50 hours per week.听While there may be some good news here, it isn鈥檛 much comfort to mothers who need to work long hours in the workplace in order to get relief at home.听
• Men and women who perceive themselves in counter-stereotypical ways听are more likely to achieve caregiver equality听than those who identify with more stereotypically gendered traits.听Using an adapted听听that measures traditionally male and female characteristics, we identified personality traits associated with greater egalitarianism. Fathers who described themselves as especially warm were more likely to be a shared caregiver. Women, who responded that they always defend their own beliefs were also more likely to develop an egalitarian arrangement.
• Men and women who believe their work role is amenable to work-family balance听are more likely to achieve egalitarian caregiving arrangements than those who don鈥檛.听While workplace culture and supervisory support are important, it is the role itself that makes the biggest difference. One can work in a supportive environment but if the job doesn鈥檛 lend itself to a balanced life, then that impacts the likelihood of truly shared caregiving.听

From our research, we鈥檝e learned that being a听Conflicted Father听serves no one鈥檚 interests at the end of the day - not the father鈥檚, not the mother鈥檚, and not the organizations the fathers work for. So, what can men do to achieve their goal of being a partner in caregiving? Put simply, take parental leave if it鈥檚 available, utilize the flexibility you are offered, advocate for a job role that helps you achieve work/life balance, and be intentional about your commitment to caregiving equally with your spouse - no matter who earns more or works longer hours.

Make this Father鈥檚 Day a time to reflect and act on what is most important to you. I鈥檓 not in the habit of offering unsolicited advice, but just this once, let me suggest that doing so may yield a more meaningful life 鈥� and perhaps even a better shot at wedded bliss.

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听is the executive director of the听听and a research professor in the Carroll School of Management at 涩里番下载.

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